Becoming the "Romance Novel Man" that she can't wait to pursue...
I'm going to let you in on how I did it. I'm also going to talk about what kind of results I saw - because a "how-to" is meaningless unless you know where it's taking you.
What you don't know is that more women have asked me out in the last few months, than in the last 5 years.
What's even more ridiculous is that it's automatic. Effortless. I shut down my dating profiles 2 months ago and haven't looked back. I'm not on Tinder, Hinge, or Bumble.
I can't remember the last time I tried to flirt. I know I can just be myself and inevitably some sexy women will let me know they're interested.
I think it's just as important that you know...I wasn't this guy my entire life. I was repulsive to women for more years than I want to admit. I learned how to do this. And so can you.
My name is Rob. I'm an okay-lookin Asian guy. Because I'm Asian, when they first see me, most women assume I'm submissive and have a small dick. The odds aren't exactly in my favor.
Before I figured it out, I was the guy who drove 6 hours to go clubbing in Las Vegas.
I was also the guy who spent the entire evening hiding in the men's bathroom. Filled with shame and self-loathing, I desperately avoided eye contact with the bathroom attendant who had seen me a dozen too many times that night.
Even though I knew I was being stupid, my brain was absolutely convinced things were just going to go the same way they always had. Women were just going to tell me they had boyfriends. Or ignore me and hope I went away.
It hurt like hell being on the receiving end of that. So I put up higher and higher walls instead. I stopped trying to date women that were "out of my league". I stopped going out. And instead, I hoarded information. "Secret Blueprints" that would make her obsessed. Body language tricks that would make me more attractive, guaranteed. The ONE TEXT that would make her respond and chase with enthusiasm.
Only to discover that none of it worked...that after 10 years of obsessively pursuing the ANSWER to attraction, I was STILL not getting it. I felt like an idiot. Like the only guy who just hadn't figured it out yet. Meanwhile, I kept getting older and older.
Some years, I'd get blindly lucky and stumble into a relationship accidentally...but it was never the kind of steamy, "rip my clothes off and take me" kind of chemistry that I was looking for. Instead...it would always end up feeling like I was going through the motions.
But underneath it all, and maybe you can relate...underneath it all, the part that hurt was just how f*cking lonely I was. Life felt numb. Hollow. And if I was really being honest with myself, I felt like I had no purpose.
I mean sure I was doing fine financially. Hell, at that point, I was also dating a woman who loved me and wanted me to marry her. But inside, the lights had gone out. It took me 5 years to break up with her. I didn't feel anything for her romantically - and that was the hardest thing I've ever had to tell another human being, I cared about.
See for most of my life, I couldn't seem to meaningfully connect with the women I wanted, no matter how much I tried. If I were to put it ALL out on the table, I also had a hard time meaningfully connecting with everyone else, too - including my parents. It felt like I was simply tolerating life and waiting to meet the one magic girl who would make it happy and fulfilling again.
What was missing for me is something we men were DENIED from day 1. It's also the secret that made me into the guy who puts no work into dating at all and still gets pursued by women. This is not an accident. I see this in every men's group I attend, every bastion of masculinity from Facebook Groups to Reddit. And it's literally killing us.
From Day 1, you were born into a culture where what you feel doesn't matter.
It isn't manly. We're trained from the minute we're conscious to stuff it down.
Big boys don't cry.
Rub some dirt in it.
Don't be such a pussy.